Posted on | October 11, 2011 | 3 Comments
I was going to write about something completely different today but when I went to research something I stumbled on this little gem. I found the “I Hate Alcoholics” fan page on Facebook.
You all know that I’m an alcoholic and this page is about my living life sober and what I do to try to stay sober today. I don’t know why I’ve never really researched the hate others may have towards alcoholics. I find that ironic because my father was an alcoholic and died a horrible alcohol related death and I absolutely hated him for the majority of my life. I guess you could say that I would have joined this Facebook fan page at one point myself.
After getting out of treatment for my alcoholism and much time having to deal with my personal garbage I realized that I didn’t hate my father, I hated myself. It’s very much like those people that hate gay and lesbians when they are closet homosexuals themselves. I said for many years I hated my father because of who he was and what he did but the truth was that I had become practically just like him.
Now let’s take the word “hate”. I use that word more often than I care to admit and I think it’s because I’ve always been a very intense person. I have always been the person that if you do me wrong I’ll hate you at the drop of a dime. I “hate” that about myself and have gotten better through the years but it’s still very hard sometimes. I shouldn’t use the word hate as much as I do and as I’ve come to learn, if somebody does something wrong to me than they don’t need to be in my life and move on.
The “I hate alcoholics” group has over 2,500 members. I wonder what was the person’s true motivation behind starting the group. I’m sure they have a valid reason and if starting the group and airing they frustration is how they do their “therapy” then more power to them. Hell, I’m airing my stuff out here and this is my therapy. I don’t see much difference between Life Without Beer Goggles and I Hate Alcoholics, except the hate part.
I hope that the few of you that read this blog will take the time to check out that group on Facebook and give me your opinion. I’m sure there are other hate groups on Facebook and that’s the beauty of freedom of speech. We can say what we want and people can either listen or ignore us and move on.
We’ve all been wronged at one point or another by somebody close to us. I’m sure that there are way too many of us that are still trying to deal with the anger that was caused by that person that hurt us in our own way. Some of us may go to therapy, others will start a blog, and a few will start a hate fan page on social media. No matter how we deal with our pain the important part is that we deal with it and in a positive way. I think this may be the right time to apply the “no harm, no foul” rule.
Don’t forget, you’re not alone!